I didn't go to Baylor for college. (And as an SMU student I'm supposed to wrinkle my nose as I say the word Baylor.) But I had quite a few friends who went there. One sweet friend of mine showed me her dorm room when I visited her during her freshman year of college, and she informed me that she lived in the dorm with the nice girls. Apparently the guys at Baylor were known for dating the girls in another residence hall--one famous for producing sorority girls--but then later marrying the girls who lived where my friend lived. That doesn't say much for the Baylor guys does it?
This same scenario actually played out in my own college group. One of my friends who is probably a fabulous wife and mommy was told by a guy in our group that he couldn't date her because she wasn't "edgy" enough. He said that he needed a girl with more edge. Well what is that supposed to mean? All I know was that this comment hurt her feelings and made me scratch my head. Why are Christian women taught to exercise sound judgment and discernment when Christian guys claim they want edgy women?
We're taught to be women of sound judgment and discernment, because that is God's command in Proverbs. We are told that good judgment will give us life. The next few verses even say that sound judgment and discernment will allow us to walk safely, not be afraid when we sleep, not have fear during disasters, and give us confidence from the Lord. He says that choosing discernment is like wearing an ornament to grace your neck. In other words, sound judgment and discernment are the perfect accessory for any woman.
Don't feel bad about being considered a prudish woman. If you're exercising discernment in your life, God says you're wearing the right necklace. It may not seem like the "fun" way to live, but having high standards and sound judgment "will be life for you." You may not be known as the best party girl, but you'll be known as the girl in the nice girl residence hall. You know, the kind of girl that a guy will actually buy the diamond for; the girl that God will use to be a good wife and mommy; the girl whose testimony hasn't been tarnished.
I guess that's why the prudish college girls always end up the first ones married. My Baylor friend did get married--to a good guy from the University of North Texas who really was looking for a godly wife. And my church friend found a guy who appreciated her for the woman she was. Oh, and the guy looking for an edgy wife, well he's been single for a long time...
Good story!
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